Unrequited love is a complex psychological issue affecting all types of people, regardless of age, gender, or social standing. It is a situation when someone has strong feelings of romantic or platonic love that are not reciprocated. This Valentine’s Day, it’s important to remember that you don’t have to be subject to unrequited love forever.
Here are some of the things you can do to take control of your feelings this Valentine’s Day:
Recognize that your feelings are valid : Even though the object of your affection may not be reciprocating, it doesn’t mean that what you’re feeling isn’t real. Allow yourself the space to feel your emotions and process them in a healthy way that works for you.
Focus on self-care : Unrequited love can feel overwhelming but taking care of your physical and mental health can help you regain control over your feelings. Spend some time doing activities that make you happy and bring joy into your life — anything from engaging in an outdoor activity to simply reading a book or watching TV.
Practice radical acceptance :
It’s essential to accept that not everyone will reciprocate our feelings, and we must be okay with that if we want to move on from unrequited love. Trying to force someone to return our affections only leads to further suffering; it’s best to accept the situation, learn from it, and move on.
By understanding your psychology and recognizing what you can control in your relationships, you can regain power over unrequited love this Valentine’s Day. Even if you don’t achieve romantic success, you can still gain the satisfaction of knowing you’ve done all you can to care for yourself and your needs.
Here are some steps you can take to connect better with yourself on valentine’s day:
Take time to reflect on what you want from a relationship : Whether it be a romantic or platonic connection, ask yourself what qualities are essential for you to feel fulfilled in a relationship, and make sure these qualities are met before entering one.
Reach out for help if needed: Unrequited love is difficult to deal with alone. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, don’t hesitate to talk to someone about your feelings.
Find ways to celebrate yourself on Valentine’s Day : Spend the day engaging in activities that make you feel good — whether it’s pampering yourself with a spa day or simply enjoying some quality alone time, find ways to show yourself self-love.
Unrequited love is tough, but by understanding the psychology and taking control of what you can, you can learn how to better navigate relationships in the future — even if it isn’t always easy. This Valentine’s Day, take the time to celebrate yourself and recognize that you deserve love.
Dr Chandni Tugnait, M.D. (Alternative Medicines), Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Business Coach, NLP Expert, Healer, Founder & Director – Gateway of Healing.