It’s been a year of upheavals, especially for couples cooped up at home. Their dynamics changed deeply impacting their view of each other, the relationship, and their respective positions within the relationship. They were forced to manage a crisis—sudden decision to work from home (WFH), online classes, no house help, restricted accessibility, etc.
As tensions increased couples found themselves constantly trying to make fair or right decisions and create backup survival plans. These provoked feelings of insecurity and a desperate need to reconnect and preserve one’s identity.
Ideally, when disaster strikes, it requires couples to discuss, share fears and concerns and negotiate their strategy— how bad is it? Is this as bad as it can get? Will it get worse? Often, they position themselves with different answers to these angst-ridden questions. They begin questioning themselves and suspect that their partner doesn’t understand thereby initiating the destructive pattern of taking out their frustrations on each other!
Pre-pandemic the physical act of leaving home for work meant that couples could transition from their marriage mode (at home) to work mode (at the office) effectively. Often, the tendency was to give their best at work while the leftovers came home. With WFH, this became more challenging.
Here’s what can help when rebuilding the relationship to ensure that WFH is an enjoyable experience.
• Emotional check-in: WFH calls for quick toggling between multiple roles. This can feel emotionally exhausting. Even though couples might admire or be aware of what their partners are doing, they fail to consciously and vocally be attentive. This makes the partner feel less important and alone. The loneliness increases when they see them checking in on their colleagues or friends and asking how they’re doing or feeling and how they can help. It’s not like they’re thinking about them more. It’s just that they’re doing a better job of accepting the vulnerabilities of others.
• Be there: Partners do value each other’s attitude towards work and their desire to achieve their goals. Their internal struggles (competing with a colleague, fending off a manager, feeling others are smarter or doing better, am I relevant, do I belong, am I good enough, can I catch up) can feel unsettling. Instead of leaving them feeling troubled and neglected, a partner’s presence can bring relief and calmness.
• Say it: You’re both equally busy so clearly ask for what you need physically, emotionally or otherwise. Don’t expect your partner to assume or understand the unsaid. When things feel frightening or become difficult, knowing you can ask for help makes you feel grounded and less vulnerable. You don’t need to solve anything and perhaps your partner isn’t even looking for them. They just need you to acknowledge their experience and feelings.
• Share chores: Every couple needs to deal with the practicalities of life and the mundane tasks that must get done. These include household chores, managing finances, the upbringing of children and caring for elderly parents etc. For dual-career couples, this is a challenge and can lead to friction and resentment. List the tasks, drop the unnecessary ones, claim to do the ones you love, outsource others and then divide the rest or take turns. Clarity builds harmonious relationships.
• Fixed meal-times: Depending on work demands, the simple ritual of eating together as a family provides a sense of closeness and relaxation.
• Inform: WFH doesn’t mean that your partner will know your work schedule. It’s necessary to keep them informed about calls or meetings and deadlines. This ensures that the partner feels connected and can help to keep the family away or share responsibilities or provide the support needed. It also gives the notion of being a team.
• Spend quality time: Own this time for yourselves without children or the family. It can mean sharing a drink or walking after dinner or watching a movie or simply sitting and talking. It’s not about what you do, how much time you spend or the time of the day you choose. What’s important is to be together without interruption. Put in the effort till it becomes organic. Asking for attention might make you feel needy but if it’s a ritual then you’re exempt from minimising your needs.
• Get intimate: When you find yourself at a loss of words or don’t know how to react to a partner’s stress, use hugs and kisses freely. It will not only make them feel better but show how much you care and want things to work out for them. It’s a great way to repair a bad moment or interrupt a potential destructive pattern. Feeling the warmth in silence can make you feel calmer, closer and supported.
In a relationship, you connect, disconnect, and then reconnect again. Unfortunately, when there’s no reconnect, then the arguments and disagreements tend to go over on repeat making partners stay away from each other.
The writer is a mental health counsellor
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Jhankriti to celebrate unity via cultural diversity
For a long time, art has nurtured creativity, innovation, and cultural diversity for all and played an important role in knowledge sharing, encouraging curiosity and dialogue for a long time. These are qualities that art has always had & will remain if we continue to support environments where artists and artistic freedom are nurtured, promoted, and protected. What diversity stands for is a whole that is greater than the sum of its parts. There has been an increasing amount of scientific evidence that shows art can change a person’s outlook and the way they experience the world and help them grow.
Art and culture are key to the blossoming of an individual and society at large. We reflect, rejoice, and rejuvenate in our beings through art and culture, reconnect with who we are, and move forward.
To keep the traditions of classical art and dance forms alive amongst youngsters, acknowledge talents and give artists a platform, the Art of Living’s World Forum for Art and Culture, in partnership with the Ministry of Culture as part of the Azaadi ka Amrit Mahotsav campaign, launched Jhankriti. It is a performance art festival and competition like no other. World Forum for Art and Culture’s quest for finding and promoting talent finds a beautiful expression in this exquisite festival called Kriti (a word born from the union of the words- Jhankaar and Sanskriti). While it is designed like a competition, it truly is a festival—a festival to celebrate the diversity of Indian classical art forms.
The concept of Jhankriti was first initiated in 2019 in Delhi-NCR with over 40 maestros and senior artists and more than 500 participants. A very well acknowledged and appreciated response to that
elicited the idea to bring it on a national level. It is yet another an opportunity for young & old to take pride in the Indian heritage and an inspiration to carry forward these forms learnt from Gurus.
A unique feature of Jhankriti is that every participant also gets an opportunity to be mentored by extraordinary mentors with the goal to create a seamless transition from the temple and proscenium traditions to the online medium of performance while maintaining the purity and integrity of performing arts. Renowned artists like Prachee Shah Paandya and Sandhya Raju, academician Dr Sandhya Purecha, Harikatha exponent Sharat Prabhat along with music maestros Pt Ronu Mazumdar, Padmashri Sumitra Guha, Pt Jayatheerth Mevunde, Vidwan Sikkil Gurucharan, Pt Debashish Bhattacharya and Vidwan K U Jayachandra Rao will be the visionary mentors to the next generation of performers of India who participate in Jhankriti 2022.
While addressing the initiative, Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar said, “It is important to save and preserve our culture.” Many years ago, it was observed that our youth were moving away from Indian classical music and dance. That’s when we decided to create a platform. With larger programs, more and more people started coming together and realising the respect and honour they received. “
Meeting of the right minds for the right initiatives for the right purpose, God always helps, and since this is for the interest of culture and art and we all have a common goal, the people that are here, all the Gurus, legends in their respective art forms, are the ones who I admire in my heart, but there is no occasion to celebrate everyone, so, it filled my heart with gratitude and enthusiasm on seeing everyone for the event, said Meenakshi Lekhi, Minister of State for External Affairs and Culture.
The competition will be conducted online, giving an opportunity to participants from every corner of the country. Jhankriti boasts of a Star Jury with luminaries like Padmavibhushan Pt Hariprasad Chaurasia, Padmavibhushan Pt Sajan Mishra, Padmabhushan Dr Padma Subrahmanyam, Padmabhushan Sudha Raghunathan, Padmashri Dr Puru Dadheech, and Sangeet Samrat Chitravina Ravikiran.
The event was launched on June 1, 2022 in the virtual presence of global humanitarian and spiritual master, Gurudev Sri Sri Ravi Shankar; Meenakshi Lekhi, and Priyanka Chandra, Chief Director of Azaadi Ka Amrit Mahotsav, at the PhD Chamber of Commerce, New Delhi. The launch event was conducted in a blended format, where dignitaries from more than 90 countries joined live through Zoom. The Art of Living foundation broadcast the event to more than 156 countries. Vibrant performances in tribute to the motherland were presented by more than 50 young artists from Delhi, Bangalore, and Mumbai, each performing from their respective cities to create a seamless spectacle for both the live and online participants.
The Festival of Jhankriti celebrates three fields of art: Gayan (classical/semi-classical vocal (light/folk music, Hindustani and Carnatic), Vadan (instrumental/percussion), and Nritya (classical dance forms). This is structured into three broad age groups: under 8 years, 8 to 16 years, and 17 to 25 years.
The most important aspect of this event is that the registration is free. Anyone from any strata of society can participate. There is an easily accessible format through video submissions, which makes this an equal opportunity for everyone. Applications are still open and registration will close by August 15, 2022. With prize money amounting to more than 30 lakhs, Jhankriti has come at the right time to support the younger generation trying to find their footing after the pandemic.
Important dates –
Registration Closes – 15th August, 2022
Finals – 2nd & 3rd November, 2022
Award Ceremony in November/December in Art of Living International Centre, Bangalore
Interested participants can register on www.jhankriti.org
The writer is Art of Living faculty.
When Observer is the Observed, Creation Begins
Science says before the Big Bang, there was another Big Bang. If Science were to inquire as to why the Universe is expanding and what it is expanding into, a night is required to explain why, which is not a night but a day.
Science means knowledge. Religion means an awakened experience—a flowering. For others, religion is a set of beliefs. In fact, science is pure religion and religion is pure science. But somehow, humanity is caught up in the understanding that science has found and religion is caught up in interpretations of what awakened ones have once said.
In knowing, emerges an understanding. Knowing happens through a state of deep learning when an unknown phenomenon about the nature of things around us is known. Learning happens when the unknown is known. In the quest for science, humanity has met a dead religion, and in the quest for religion, humanity has met a dead science.
J. Krishnamurti has said, “the observer is the observed.” Science in that parlance hypothesises that quanta respond to an observer and that the neutrons, electrons, and protons are conscious beings, otherwise the cell won’t have the actuality of itself.
Don’t get caught up in the words. Don’t become an observer of your consciousness that is being observed by you intellectually. That’s again the trick of the mind. The mind becomes the observer and the observed too. It says, “Yes, I want to be the observer of the observed.”
What it actually means to be the observer of the observed is to be in the being-ness of the being. Everything that you observe returns to you to reinforce your being-ness. The real observer is not observing himself. Observing by being the observer. Observer object observation is lost. Being in being-ness is revealed.
What began as an idea of absolute knowledge becoming a virtue has become an unprovable set of scientific theories aping scriptures today. This is sacrilegious to science. Science cannot explain what was before the Big Bang, therefore it cannot explain what was after the Big Bang. Science has become exactly like religion. Like who made God? So, God made God.
Science says before the Big Bang, there was another Big Bang. If Science were to inquire as to why the Universe is expanding and what it is expanding into, A night is required to explain why what is not a night is a day. So, science invented a reverse theory of the Big Bang. The Big Bang: If something is expanding, it must have started, and the beginning is the Big Bang. Bang is the theory invented by the scientists who believed in religious thought that the universe was expanding like Brahma and science had superimposed the theoretical physicists’ vision on them as if they were expanding into their own expansion. God? But no one is able to answer that.
Science has so far known which part of the brain does what and what the architecture of the brain is. Science might know which part of the brain is a repository of optical neurons which create vision. But science does not know how an observer observes the beauty of the world through vision. When asked, one gets an absurd answer like chemicals and matter in certain mathematical proportions may mean beauty. How do droplets of rain on the scorched soil produce an earthy fragrance experience? No scientist in the world can explain how neurons in the brain signal beauty or how one feels the experience of fragrance. How does one feel ecstasy? “Science here is a blindfolded religious belief.
But religion is an absolute science. When you live your life according to the doctrines of some priests or philosophers, the names of Gods and beliefs paralyse and blind you.
Beliefs are like an inevitability. Your mind thinks you will die at the average human age. That’s a trick of the mind. You may believe that you may not die at 100, and believe me, you will not. The age that you are in is your own belief. You are not 20 or 50 or 70. You live the age you believe in. You will die at the age you want to die at. That’s what Jesus has ordained. Jesus knew that he would be resurrected, and he did. Beliefs are in your mind. Belief works like hypnosis that seals the mind from outside stimuli. When you are free from the known past, you are free from beliefs too.
For centuries, the mind has been observing the universe. Science agrees that without an observer, the cosmos would not exist. Like without ears, sound won’t last and without light, eyes won’t. All our senses are drawn out of our consciousness and the physical body that shaped them. An observer observes an observation. The observer observes the observation and finds that the observation that he observes is not the observation. But it meets his consciousness alone.
Consciousness is the biggest dilemma of science that remains unexplainable. What is consciousness? Science avoids this question. Neuroscience has dissected the brain, and psychologists have dissected the mind. How does a brain, which is a physical entity, and a mind, which is a psychological entity, create an experience which is experienced by someone who is not the brain and the mind?
The days of artificial intelligence (AI) are here. People believe that computing machines will be conscious like humans because of the Singularity. We are not far but light years far from that era. Of course, in films and thoughts, it is discussed.
Our minds and our senses are the result of billions of years of existence. The human mind created its own existence in time and space. mind is grown to produce experiences of time and space. When we interact with the physical world, it produces sensations. Our minds produce experiences out of sensations. When you see a new car, you touch it. Your mind comes in. It imagines you in the car. A desire is birthed by it. And you want to buy the car. Desire creates an artificial need.
The mind serves as your interface for generating natural experiences. Consciousness is the observer of the experience produced by the mind. When the observer becomes the observed-mind, the lost pure consciousness flowers. A religion is birthed as a pure science. It happened to Buddha-the awakened one. Buddha observed the mind for six years. If the observer is free from the mind’s accumulated past, that’s when the observer is the ‘observed’.
A computer is governed by the thoughts of its owner. The human mind is a kind of aircraft black box that registers all movements in space and time through the senses. Even if a computer far away apes the human mind and is directed to produce uninterrupted random thoughts and to act on them, it will be a mind. But it will continue to act according to the mind that directed it.
But consciousness is something beyond the human mind. “Mind cannot happen without consciousness. Because the mind draws its existence on the canvas of consciousness, The mind is a psychological entity, and the brain is physical. The mind is built by time and space.
The birth of the universe is mentioned in the Rig Veda’s hymn ‘Nisadiya Sukta’ 5000 years ago. Neither non-existence nor existence existed. Neither the realm of space nor the sky. A different kind of darkness. Like a primal seed, heat generates light. And creation began.’
The cosmos is made by the observer. Without an observer, there is no comprehension. Without comprehension, there is no existence. Consciousness is existence. The Universe came into existence from consciousness. Hindus believe in a Triune God. Brahma is the creator. Vishnu, the preserver. Shiva, the destroyer. A creator, a preserver, and a destroyer are all entwined in the same body. all three denote the creation. It is creation that is creating, preserving, and destroying. Consciousness pervades the whole of the universe. The Universe is the body of an absolute mind of creation. When the universe meets consciousness, creation begins.
The author is a spiritual teacher. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
EVERYONE’S ADDICTED TO OVERTHINKING
Overthinking means obsessing over the details and nuances that have occurred in our interactions with others, and in the situations we find ourselves in. We are usually thinking about the past, even just this morning, or overthinking about what is to happen; all our emails, our ‘to do’ list. Each of us generates 35,000 to 50,000 thoughts a day and most of those are the same thoughts that we had yesterday or even a year ago. Yet each of us is longing for peace. But because we have created these deep grooves or patterns of thinking, these neural pathways, because we have allowed ourselves to just think any old thing, we are now reaping the repercussions of an uncontrolled mind.
In fact, the greatest work any of us can do to bring benefit to the world around us, is to stop this overthinking. We need to create new, powerful pathways and patterns. Because each thought we have has its own energy. The first person to feel the impact of that energy is us. We can all feel the difference of holding a happy thought and holding a jealous, critical thought. The contrast of lightness and joy and the heavy, sluggish feeling of meanness. There is no easy, quick fix. But every step towards creating new grooves of peaceful thought patterns is beneficial to me and everyone around me.
There are three ways in which we overthink. The first is about the self—self-talk. The second is about the behaviour and character of others, and the third is about the situations in our life. When we talk to the self, we need to have self-empowering thoughts that bring inner strength. What usually happens is that because of low self-esteem, we think in an arrogant way and exhibit controlling behaviour, or we obsess over our most vulnerable weak points, and pile on the guilt and criticism. We need to understand that our thinking mind has been programmed by our family, culture, education system, workplace and society in general. We need to step back and see that behind this thinking mind is an inner space of peace that is me. As we learn to do this the mind begins to quieten down.
When we identify with this ‘me’ that is behind the mind, we can feel the intrinsic peace there, and can operate from that place of peace. We can learn to become more aware of the things we are telling ourselves, and make sure it is kind and supportive, the way we would talk to our friends. The starting point is, ‘I am a peaceful being.’
In thinking about others, we can see that we expect everyone to think the way we do, behave the way we believe is the right way to behave. Once we understand that we have our own unhelpful thought patterns, we will be able to accept other people just as they are. It is an act of graciousness. When we feel ‘upset’ by another, the reaction is to blame them for how we are feeling. This is an illusion. It is my own thoughts that are creating the pain. The other is not responsible. It takes great courage to recognise this and stop projecting and take responsibility for each thought I create.
Situations are the same. Some of us can cope with all the big dramatic happenings in life, but trip over the trivia. But the small things have long tentacles reaching back into a long-forgotten past. The most common questions that arise in an uncomfortable, or sudden situation, are ‘what?’ and ‘why?’. We need to work with an acceptance of what is happening and who is involved. Otherwise, we are in overdrive, overthinking, responding from anxiety or irrationality. When we move from, ‘Why is this happening to me?’ to ‘What do I have to learn from this?’ everything shifts—we go from the external to the internal and then we can see how to contribute in a very beautiful way, with deep good wishes. Then we can let it all melt into the past, the place where it belongs.
Taking this inner journey and connecting to the Divine, the Higher Source, God—the One behind all the scenes, who is the source of all power and peace, is the way to change the self, and subsequently, the world.
Margaret Barron has a BA in Adult Education and Training and helps co-ordinate the Education Department at the Brahma Kumaris International centre in London.
THE MIND CREATES OUR WORLD
Our body, work, home, and circumstances, all comprise our external world. I am the energy that we call consciousness, or the soul. Everything else is outside us. Our outer world is important to us, but we need to understand how this world is created. Often, when a situation, health issue or a conflict in relationships arises, we think, ‘Why did this happen’? Then we think about what we need to do. We usually start looking around us to find a solution. We try to resolve the conflict, or heal the body, or sort out things at work; we want the outer world to be perfect.
But when things do not work out the way we want in spite of our efforts, we need to look at the connection between our outer and inner worlds.
We are conditioned from childhood to think that our feelings, memories and thoughts are dependent on the outer world. We can check if we have been conditioned this way. Some signs of it are thoughts such as, ‘I am upset because of what they said…’, ‘I am disturbed by what is happening to the planet…’.
Such thoughts strengthen our conditioning, which tells us that whatever is going on in the mind is the result of what is happening outside. Since things outside are not entirely in our control, we end up creating stress, worry, fear, depression, and panic. We tell ourselves that the world is in a mess, so obviously I cannot be happy. This is why, during the first two years of the Covid pandemic, which is a physical health issue, there was a marked rise in reported cases of mental health issues.
But when we change the equation, recognising how our outer world is being created by our thoughts, we gain control over our life. We can test this. Just create a thought and see if the thought just remains in the mind or does it affect my life. If we think, ‘It has been a beautiful day today’, we feel nice. But if we think, ‘The day has been terrible’, how do we feel? Our feelings are the first to be affected by our thoughts. But we tend to focus on our feelings, ‘I am feeling good today…’, ‘I am not feeling well…’. We do not recognise that our thoughts have created those feelings.
Our thoughts also radiate vibrations, which affect the body. Medical science tells us that the majority of diseases are psychosomatic — caused or aggravated by a mental factor such as internal conflict or stress. What we call lifestyle diseases are not caused just by our diet, level of physical activity, and sleep patterns. We may be eating the healthiest foods and exercising regularly, but if we create the wrong kind of thoughts, their effect on the body will eventually show in the form of an illness.
Then, our thoughts shape our relationships. We may be on our best behaviour with someone and say all the right things, but if we have critical or judgmental thoughts about them every day, they will catch that from our vibrations.
We also worry about people we love – ‘What if something happens to them…’. This will deplete our energy as well as theirs. It is much better to care for others, which nourishes and empowers them.
Our work gets similarly affected by our thoughts. I may be working sincerely and hard, but if I am jealous, comparing myself with others, trying to outdo them, I will not be happy.
The same applies to the environment, and the planet. Just as the atmosphere of a house is created by the vibes of those who live there, the current state of the planet is the result of the thinking of all those living on it.
So, to fix our outer world, we can start by putting our inner world in order.
B.K. Shivani is a well-known motivational speaker and Rajyoga teacher.
How to keep a cool head
Meditation is a wonderful instrument for developing this state of mind, but even those well on the way to such stability can sometimes be knocked off balance.
The India-born author and poet Rudyard Kipling famously described emotional stability in his poem If: A Father’s Advice to His Son. The poem begins: ‘If you can keep your head when all about you are losing theirs – and blaming it on you.’
The poem contains much timeless wisdom, but to many of us today it would seem like an impossible ideal.
When we meet an emotionally stable person, however, they do seem to have an enviable aura of calm around them. We feel they are in balance, and that if we present them with any kind of problem, they will give carefully considered answers towards a solution.
People like this are good to have around in a family or a workplace. They appear slightly detached from the ‘goings on’, and yet sympathetic and warm.
Meditation is a wonderful instrument for developing this state of mind, but even those well on the way to such stability can sometimes be knocked off balance. Overwork can do it, brought on by an inability to delegate when needed, or feelings of anxiety when a huge ‘to do’ list seems never to be completed.
In a desperate attempt to regain our composure, we sometimes start to dwell on negative emotions, finding a strange kind of security in that because of the response it brings – sympathy, a kindly ear, or words of encouragement. But we cannot play that card too often, or people will get fed up with us.
Sometimes, a little trigger can cause a big reaction. That ‘little’ thing may be a catalyst for unravelling a whole ribbon of deeper issues that really need our attention. When we feel desperate to help another, or have many negative thoughts and ideas circulating in the mind about others, it is time to put things into perspective. We cannot fight everyone’s battles, but we can regain our composure.
It may start with sitting quietly, relaxing, maybe with a cup of tea, stepping back a little and deliberately tuning into a different, peaceful frame of mind. If it is within our ability to help the person or situation, then we can resolve to do so, but if it is beyond our ability to help directly we need to recognise that. At least by regaining our composure, we can use the mind to transmit powerful feelings of benevolence and goodwill.
A truly emotionally stable person has learned the art of mastering thoughts and feelings. When the power to do this is missing, it can be regained through connecting our own mind to the mind of the Supreme Being, the pure and bodiless one from whom we all came, and to whom we will all one day return. This is the essence of Rajyoga meditation.
Becoming emotionally out of control is unappealing, and can destroy relationships. One of the most beautiful qualities of an emotionally stable person is their dignity. Once regained, it feels a very precious quality to have, to be maintained and protected with calm composure, love, empathy, and determination.
Maureen Goodman is the Programme Director for the Brahma Kumaris UK, and BK NGO representative to the United Nations in Vienna.
Reboot the hacked mind to uninstall malware
Human brain is a physical entity. Brain has 85 billion neurons. Together all these neurons implement a mind in the brain. Human mind cannot know the mind itself. Human mind can know the brain. Human mind can observe the mind of someone else. Mind cannot observe one’s own mind.
A conscious mind is not conscious of itself. To be a mind one has to be the being first. And the one who is the being is the one who is the conscious being. A Conscious being is the one on whose canvas of consciousness a mind is conceived and operated.
Mind is operated on the body of the brain by application of 85 billion neurons that implement a mind. But no mind can operate itself. Mind is like an operating system and the brain hardware. Human body conceives a brain to birth a mind. Perception and memory are data that neurons carry back and forth that are processed in the mind. But mind cannot process data without theories and concepts. To run thoughts, memory, logic, decisions and cognising, theories and concepts are needed. Perception becomes thought and memory to breed concepts and theories. Therefore software is needed to run all that. Mind auto-creates dynamic software of theories and concepts within mind to implement the mind.
When you see, touch, hear, and feel perception is created. When you saw a flower for the first time perception is created. Next time you might call it a flower because perception birthed the thought that accompanies it. A flower becomes data. Now you do need a mind to cognise the flower but you may see it unconsciously to let neurons use data.
Neurons are conscious because of the consciousness in us. Neurons on their own are not conscious. Cognition happens because of consciousness. Cognition could either be conscious or unconscious cognition. In actuality, when you are conscious being, you may also look at the flower in the flower-ness of its being fully conscious. When accompanied by thought it reduces to data, a name.
Human body is a device. We use the body as a device. But we don’t consider body as a device. We consider that we are the body. We use mind as the mind. But we consider that we are the mind.
In fact, mind is made of senses. Existence has a mind of its own. Consciousness is the sum of all senses manifested and invisible in existence. Mind is divided into functional parts one which can store information, one for pleasure, one for optical vision, one for cognition, one for measurement, one for hearing, one for feeling, one for language, one for fear, one for enjoyment ecstasy and so on.
In aeons of existence, human mind has become a repository of huge data. Therefore, a dangerous situation is created, man is talking, dreaming, and desiring unconsciously during day and night. And one has become one’s thought. You are not your thought. But you think you are your thought. I am not my own thought. An ego is created by thought.
Ego is like malware which has hacked your mind. Now, your mind not only creates illusion but mind has become an illusion. It keeps making you unhappy.
Mind is not a reality. When you dream in thoughts during the day, reality confronts you and your dream is under dreamt. In sleep, your dream is fully dreamt because actual reality is not there to confront the dream. Dreams and thoughts are data-led.
We are living a life we have assumed as a pre-assumption, a thought. A life driven on pre-assumption is a data-driven life, a kind of black magic that is cast on you. You are captivated to think as if you are the mind. But you are not the mind.
All senses are auto-hypnotic. We get captivated first by body then mind then ego then culture society and so on. Our Society is built on the artificiality of ego and society and culture are lost to the malware.
Mind is hacked by the ego which disguises as mind and makes your mind think that you are the mind. You are not the mind. It lends you an artificial life. It creates a world. You live in your own world of ego. No one else lives in it. Everyone has created a world to live in. ‘One World’ is a utopian dream. Everyone lives in a different world captivated by the malware.
Seers say ego is a wound. But ego is a magnet. It lures happiness. Because ego in the first place is unhappiness. The unhappiness of ego feels you unhappy. It breeds desire for happiness. Ego wants to fulfil the desire. If a desire is fulfilled ego instantly desires a bigger desire than the one fulfilled. That makes you greatly unhappy like never before.
Even God cannot remove this malware from your operating system. You have to reboot your operating system. Because your mind creates it and lets your body and mind be taken by it. Let’s meet this malware eye to eye. You desire happiness for that you run after money to lose your money and assets in the end. Life loots you. Life cheats your money wealth assets relations. In the first place it was the ego that takes over you making you unhappy because you never meet it eye to eye in the first place.
You call yourself a body. You call yourself a mind. Then you are mesmerised by your ego and you forget who you are. You live like the one under a spell.
Obsessed under the spell you stay unfulfilled. Because malware creates a gap. Ego is a gap. It creates a gap between you and fulfilment. Desire is a gap between you and fulfilment. So far the desire would be there you will always be unfulfilled. So ego wants you to be happy. Understand the magic spell that corrupts your operating system. Ego wants you to be happy and creates a desire for making you happy. Desire is a gap between you and fulfilment. So by desiring you will never be happy. If you look at it with penetrating eyes, it means that you want to be happy again. You want to end up exactly there where you began from. Because you were never unhappy in the first place. Understand the spell. That you are not happy is the trick of the ego to enchant you.
You are born blissful. Thoughts are data-driven and mind is like a camera that keeps shooting. Camera cannot shoot its own picture. Therefore, mind cannot be conscious of the mind. Your being has to be conscious of your mind. Living in a world of data-driven thoughts, mind ensures that you stay unconscious to let your life be in the hands of your ego. Because when you are not conscious of your being, by default mind will ensure that all that you do is data-led. The whole journey of mind and ego lead you to be unconscious continuously in your life to make you fully unconscious when you are dead.
To reboot your operating system, be conscious in the now-ness of your being. Data-driven thoughts are perishable. In wakefulness, they perish when your system no more needs them. Therefore, go see the flower in the flower-ness of its being. Sit in the now-ness of your being. Don’t die unconsciously live consciously.
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