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To cope with change, we must look within

It is lack of inner power that results in wrong ways of thinking and behaviour, which are at the root of the problems we see in the world.

B.K. Shivani



When we hear the word ‘change’, where does our attention go? Towards the world outside, other people, or towards the self? Change is happening everywhere — in the world, in the people around you, and within you. Change is taking place constantly, and we are told that change is the law of the universe.

But where do we focus? Most importantly, of all the changes that are occurring, which one is in our control, and where we can exercise our choice?

The change occurring outside involves situations, the forces of nature, people, and their behaviour. The change that takes place in our inner world includes change in our way of thinking, speaking, behaving and working, as also change in our food habits and way of life.

We often believe that the change occurring outside affects us. When things out there are not going the way we want, a big change or a crisis suddenly disrupts the life we had become accustomed to, and the crisis persists for months, as is happening now, and we do not know how long it will last, it affects the behaviour of some people. Those who used to be calm earlier have become unstable — someone loses his temper very quickly, another one easily breaks down.

When this started happening, what was our reaction? We thought that we had to set things right — the people and the situations. Our intention was good, we meant to help others, but while we went about doing so, we did not pay attention to our thoughts and feelings, because we believed that we were simply being affected by whatever was happening around us.

We did not realise that this inner change was something we could control, that the direction of change was my choice. Since we did not pay attention to our inner world amidst all the changes taking place outside, we began thinking that it was natural to experience fear, worry and anger. This is how we changed within.

While earlier we rarely used to get angry or worry, and felt afraid only if it was a really serious situation, now we experience these emotions more frequently. Fear has become a ‘natural’ emotion for us. When this change occurred in our inner world, it started influencing our external situations.

We need to be aware of some spiritual equations which tell us what affects what: It is humans who influence nature, and our thoughts shape the world. In other words, our inner world influences the world outside, but we thought that it was natural to be affected by a change in situations.

When there is a change outside, we need to change in response, but we must remember that the change within us will influence the situation outside. It is our sanskars, or traits and habits, that create our world, not the other way round.

For example, if a close friend begins to behave in a disagreeable way, I have the choice of feeling hurt, angry and responding in kind, or understanding that he or she is going through some difficulty and offering them support. The way I choose to respond will determine the future course of my relationship with that person.

Similarly, if we want to change a situation, we have to first bring about change within. We have the power to do that, but when we do not use that power, we change in the wrong direction.

We need to remember that change begins in the mind, and ensure that the change happens consciously and in the right direction.

For that we need to pay attention to our thoughts, feelings, the way we speak, and our behaviour. None of these things are dependent on external situations or other people. They should be of the highest quality we are capable of. When we think and act according to our highest potential, we begin to exist on a higher plane where our mind becomes more positive. That, in turn, increases our inner power.

It is lack of this inner power that results in wrong ways of thinking and behaviour, which are at the root of the problems we see in the world. The vices in human minds have created the hell the world has become today. But if we have turned the world into hell, we also have the power to create heaven on earth, by using our innate virtues of purity, peace, love and truth. When more and more of us begin to live by these virtues, the world will begin to change, and a time will come when a critical mass of positive energy will transform this world into paradise.

 B.K. Shivani is a well-known motivational speaker and Rajyoga teacher.

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Sanatana Dharma: Eternal occupation of the living entity



The Sanskrit word Sanatana means “eternal” and the word Dharma means “occupation.” Therefore the term “Sanatana Dharma” can be taken to mean our eternal occupation. The Supreme Lord and His transcendental abode are both Sanatana, eternal, as are the living entities, and the combined association of the Supreme Lord and the living entities in the Sanatana abode (the spiritual world) is the perfection of human life.

Krishna is very kind to the living entities because they are His sons. Krishna declares in the Bhagavad Gita that, “I am the father of all.” There are many different types of living entities according to their different karma, and Krishna declares He is the father of them all. Therefore, time and time again, the Lord descends to this material world to reclaim all of these fallen, conditioned souls to call them back to the Sanatana, eternal, sky so that the Sanatana living entities may regain their original eternal positions in association with the Lord. Thus Krishna comes in different incarnations, or He sends His confidential servants as sons or acharyas to reclaim the conditioned souls.

Therefore Sanatana Dharma does not refer to any sectarian process of religion. It is the eternal function of the eternal living entities in relationship with the eternal Supreme Lord. Sanatana Dharma refers, as stated previously, to the eternal occupation of the living entity.

The English word “religion” is a little different from Sanatana Dharma. Religion conveys the idea of faith, and faith may change. One may have faith in a particular process, and he may change this faith and adopt another, but Sanatana Dharma refers to that activity that cannot be changed. For instance, liquidity cannot be taken from the water, nor can heat be taken from fire. Similarly, the eternal function of the eternal living entity cannot be taken from the living entity. Sanatana Dharma is eternally integral to the living entity. When we speak of Sanatana Dharma, then, we must take it for granted that it has no beginning or end.

That which has neither beginning nor end cannot be sectarian, for it cannot be limited by any boundaries. Yet those belonging to some sectarian faith will wrongly consider that Sanatana Dharma is also sectarian, but if we go deeper into the matter and consider it in the light of modern science, we can see that Sanatana Dharma is the business of all people of the world–nay, of all the living entities of the universe. Non-Sanatana religious faith may have some beginning in the annals of human history, but there is no beginning to the history of Sanatana Dharma because it remains eternally with the living entities.

The Bhagavad Gita states that the living entity has neither birth nor death, he is eternal and indestructible, and he continues to live after the destruction of his temporary material body.

To understand the concept of Sanatana Dharma, we must first try to understand the concept of religion from the Sanskrit root meaning of the word. Dharma refers to that which constantly exists with the particular object. We conclude that there is heat and light along with the fire; without heat and light, there is no meaning to the word fire. Similarly, we must discover the essential part of the living being, that part which is his constant companion. That constant companion is his eternal quality, and that eternal quality is his eternal religion.

When Sanatana Gosvami asked Sri Caitanya Mahaprabhu about the constitutional position of the living being He replied that it is the rendering of service to the Supreme Personality of Godhead. If we look at what is happening around us in the world we can easily see every living being is constantly engaged in rendering service to another living being. We can see that one friend serves another friend, the mother serves the son, the wife serves the husband, the husband serves the wife and so on. If we go on searching in this spirit, it will be seen that there is no exception in the society of living beings to the activity of service. The politician presents his manifesto for the public to convince them of his service capacity. The voters, therefore, give the politician their valuable votes, thinking that he will render valuable service to society. The shopkeeper serves the customer, and the artisan serves the capitalist. The capitalist serves the family, and the family serves the state. In this way, we can see that no living being is exempt from rendering service to other living beings, and therefore we can safely conclude that service is the constant companion of the living being and that the rendering of service is the eternal religion of the living being.

Factually we are related to the Supreme Lord in service. The Supreme Lord is the supreme enjoyer, and we living entities are His servitors. We are created for His enjoyment, and if we participate in that eternal enjoyment with the Supreme Personality of Godhead, we become happy. We cannot become happy otherwise. It is not possible to be happy independently, just as no one part of the body can be happy without cooperating with the stomach. It is not possible for the living entity to be happy without rendering transcendental loving service unto the Supreme Lord. Therefore, to summarise, the Sanatana Dharma of every living entity is the rendering of service. No matter what religion one professes to belong to, this eternal occupation of rendering service remains with the living entity. To perfect one’s life, one simply requires the redirection of this service. Instead of serving in the material world, he can serve Krishna, the Supreme Personality of Godhead. This process, transforming one’s service from persons and objects in the material world to the service of Krishna in the spiritual world, is the art of Krishna consciousness and as we progress in this newsletter we will discover how we can easily transform seemingly material activities into liberating transcendental activities, by performing them for the pleasure of Krishna.

Gauranga Sundar Das is Iskconinc Communication Director and SM IT Head. 

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Prarthna Saran



Swami Chinmayananda Ji was not just one of the greatest saints of the 20th century, but a towering spiritual giant, a social reformer, a missionary, a freedom fighter, and a Vedantic teacher of the Upanishads and the Bhagavad Geeta par excellence. He brought about an unprecedented awakening, a renaissance in Hinduism. The Upanishads were a hidden treasure for most of the Hindus till they were simplified and unravelled to the educated English speaking elite of the world. He appeared on the scene when India was still ruled by the British, and the colonial impact of mental slavery was so strong on Indian minds, that almost all Indians wanted to ape the west as they were made to believe that they were uncultured uncivilised people and anything and everything British was worth graduating to.

Born in a highly placed aristocratic family, with a post-graduation degree in English and Law, he first joined The National Herald as a brilliant young journalist in Lucknow. Possessed with an extremely sharp mind and a questioning intellect, he rebelled against all unexplained, seemingly illogical traditions and ritualistic practices of Hinduism. His fiery young mind was restless and refused to practise seemingly meaningless pujas, japas, and havans etc. He found a certain intellectual honesty in atheistic thought. In his own words to me, he once said, “I used to write regularly against Hinduism. Some of the most vitriolic attacks on Hinduism have been made by me.” So, as a journalist, he reached Shivanand Ashram in Rishikesh and even told Swami Shivanandaji that he had come to do an expose on the ashrams and Swamis, and “how they keep up the bluff among the masses.” Swamiji invited him to stay at the ashram, watch all the activities closely so that he can uncover the “inside story”. So, while working on the ‘inside story’ for his paper, the ‘outsider ‘ became a true ‘ insider’. The ordinary journalist, Bal Krishna Menon, slowly evolved into the world revered saint Swami Chinmayananda. He taught tirelessly for decades even while his body had to have oxygen support, he worked for a renaissance in Hinduism. He opened the eyes of Hindus to Hinduism. He infused new meaning in Hindu thought, that was sustainable, logical, and easily comprehensible. Thus, acceptable to modern man, helping him to rise, evolve, and then help others to lift themselves out of centuries of inferiority, and slavish thought. He helped so many people to pull themselves out of the dense darkness of ignorance into the life endowing light of our scriptures.

His contribution to the world of modern spiritual thought is profound yet highly practical. His advice was always in sync with the Geeta teachings. “Roll up your sleeves and work hard in the world…. the lord loves the smell of sweat.”

This unique sanyasi taught by example, working and teaching tirelessly till the last. A few months before his Maha Samadhi (leaving his body) he was very sick in Bombay. The doctors advised him not to speak at all and get admitted to the best Bombay hospital. Gurudev was ready to conduct a camp of 600 youngsters in a remote village in Sidhabari, a small hamlet of Himachal, where there was barely any medical aid. When the doctors warned him that the trip to Himachal could prove to be fatal, he shot back, “ Why? Does no one die in Bombay?” Nothing happened to him in Sidhabari, where he took two talks a day on the Geeta. After the talk, he used to be wheelchaired off the stage with oxygen clamped on him. After about a month, he gave up his body in the USA, in one of their specialised hospitals under the care of a renowned heart surgeon. Even with his last breath, he taught: The body will fall when and where it has to!

Prarthna Saran is the President of Delhi Chinmaya Mission.

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How to be fearless in Covid times

We can defocus from the turmoil of our surroundings through meditation and connect with our soul which is a part of God, the source of all love and joy.



These are stressful and confusing times for many of us. Fear and anxiety  can be overwhelming and cause strong emotions in people. Daily life is disrupted completely for everyone across the globe. People are feeling uncertain about what could happen in the coming weeks. Feelings of anxiety, uncertainty and fear are very common today. People are worried about their own health and the health of their loved ones. How can we deal with all our fears under the current circumstances? Let’s first understand:

Why do we have fear?

Fear arises from doubt and the unknown. When we have doubts about how something is going to turn out, it opens the door to fear. When we doubt ourselves, we fear making a wrong decision or making a mistake. When we doubt whether an outcome will turn out right, we fear the consequences. If we doubt the existence of controlling power, we live in fear of chance occurrences and accidents.

We fear being weak. The young boy or girl on the school playground fears the bully. Each day as he or she walks home from school, the weak child lives in fear of being physically attacked by the bigger children. At work, the employee fears the employer. The employer holds the future of our salary and job in his or her hands. We may feel weak and powerless to speak up for injustices on the job because those who hold the power may retaliate and punish us for doing so.

We are more afraid of our thoughts of what is out there than of what is actually out there. Those who fear death, in actuality, fear the unknown. The fear is always trying to eat us up in one manner or another. People fear the unknown because it may be unpleasant or painful. Since they do not know what to expect, anxiety and fear build within them.

How can we achieve fearlessness?

Our soul, which is totally conscious, is a part of God and, therefore, is without fear. Since God is all-consciousness, and the soul is one with the Lord, it is God in a microcosm. God is without fear, and the soul is also without fear. It is only when we are out of touch with our soul that we begin to be afraid. The soul is truth; the soul is totally conscious. Being in connection with absolute truth means there is no fear. Thus, there is no fear in the soul.

 The soul’s quality of wisdom gives it access to the knowledge of all that is. There is nothing potentially unknown to the soul. It knows what is and what is to be. What has it to fear? Those who have been in touch with their soul-the saints, mystics, prophets, and enlightened beings-have experienced it.

Becoming Desensitised

 In medicine, to desensitise someone is to give one small dose of the substance to which one is allergic. By learning to tolerate small doses, the body builds resistance and can handle larger doses of the irritating substance. If we begin to practice fearlessness in small situations, we can grow in our ability to handle greater and greater challenges. To practice fearlessness, we must come in contact with our empowered soul.

How can we experience our empowered soul and fearlessness?

We need to learn that our empowered soul is the one who is really facing our challenges. If we connect with our empowered soul, we will overcome all fears and gain a lasting sense of peace and security. Our empowered soul, being one with God, is there for us. It is there to help us through the challenges of life. We just need to sit in silence and experience our empowered soul.

Meditation is the process by which we take our attention away from the world outside and focus it on ourselves. In doing so, we defocus from the turmoil of our surroundings and connect with our soul which is a part of God, the source of all love and joy.

What can we do in the current times?

We cannot put an end to life’s challenges. We have no control over the outer universe. We cannot say for certain that we will not lose our job, our home, our wealth, or a loved one. What we can do is face these challenges with a sense of fearlessness so that we are not incapacitated by fear and despair. What we can do is take a break from reading, watching or listening to news stories, including social media and spend time in meditation and experiencing our empowered soul.

Once we become aware of our spiritual nature and experience our soul, we will find that our lives will be filled with love, joy, fearlessness, acceptance, and trust.

The author is the Head of the Sawan Kirpal Ruhani Mission. 

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B.K. Shivani



There are times when some families face a situation that cannot be resolved even if they spend all their money on it. In contrast, some other families easily come through seemingly insurmountable problems, as if by a miracle. But miracles do not happen. Those families had earned a lot of goodwill and blessings from others, and these helped tide them over the difficulty.

We all get the fruit of what we have done in the past. If we have accumulated a large stock of good wishes, we receive help from unexpected quarters that takes us across tough times.

Blessings are an intangible commodity, so we underrate them. We value what is visible: wealth, achievements, personal connections. It is essential to have money, and there is no harm in earning large amounts of it, but it helps to collect some blessings as well. They are invisible but have the energy to make the impossible happen.

If we are not getting blessings from others, in all likelihood something else is coming our way. When we are warm and friendly with someone, the other person responds in kind, and we receive pure and positive energy, or what we call blessings. But if we are cold or discourteous, or harbour ill-feeling for them, their thoughts about us are unlikely to be nice. We engage in such karmic transactions every day, investing in good or bad thoughts and feelings, and getting the return of that. But we overlook this — at great cost.

Suppose we get angry with someone and shout at them for a minute. How long are they going to take to get over the bad feelings and emotional upheaval we caused? Probably a lifetime. A minute’s investment of anger brings us a lifetime of ill-feeling from the other person.

We invest money with great care, checking beforehand what the return will be, but give little thought to karmic investments and end up receiving things we had not bargained for. Then we wonder why we are not happy even though everything in our life seems to be fine. We are earning loads of money and have everything we want, but we are still not content. That empty feeling inside is the result of the harmful vibrations we have attracted by hurting others knowingly or otherwise.

Karmic investments call for more prudence than business deals. If we pay no attention to the quality of our actions, the corrosive effect of bad karma, which stems from — and reinforces — our character flaws, will corrupt our mind and the decisions it makes.

When we invest intelligently, that too brings lifelong returns, in the form of goodwill, cooperation, and friendship. Suppose someone has made a mistake and is expecting to get an earful from me, but instead of exploding with rage I just gently tell them to be more careful in future. They are going to remember my conduct for a long time, with some gratitude.

Can we always speak and act in ways that keep others happy and content? This calls for understanding, tolerance, and tact. If can we do this, the blessings will keep rolling in and we will always find ourselves in good spirits. Where there are abundant blessings, there is joy, health and loving relationships. Money cannot buy any of these.

There is another important aspect to money: the thought behind earning it. We work hard and put aside something, thinking that it will come in handy in the event of a serious illness. If we earmark money for that purpose, that is where it will most likely go, because that is the thought energy we have put into it, which will create that reality. Why not accumulate good wishes instead, which will keep us healthy?

We err in assuming that material success will help us have peace, joy and contentment. For these, we can spend some time taking care of our mind so that we know how to manage our thoughts and emotions. Once we have learnt this subtle art, life will be much easier and more enjoyable.

B.K. Shivani is a well-known motivational speaker and Rajyoga teacher.

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B.K. Usha



To have the mind remain stable in one thought is the highest level of concentration. If we develop this degree of focus, our attention and energies will be applied fully and accurately to any task, leading to easy success. The power of concentration automatically brings mental clarity, an elevated state of mind, and several other powers, including discernment, decision-making, and judgment. Because of this, if there is a difficult situation, even one individual with good concentration can find a solution to it.

When someone is deeply absorbed in one thought, they forget everything else and that thought is their world. Powerful concentration focuses our mental energy in such a way that we can convey our ideas to others clearly so that they can understand what we are thinking, and why. This helps to create concord and unity of purpose in a group.

It is one thing to attain such concentration by strenuous effort, and quite another to remain constantly and naturally focused. To achieve the latter stage, one needs solitude and long-term practice of focusing one’s mind. With dedicated and sustained practice one can acquire the ability to remain calm and focused even when there is commotion all around.

This ability not only helps us remain stable but also enables us to help others in times of distress. One whose mind is undisturbed and still is a source of hope and courage for those who are in the grip of anxiety, fear, confusion and depression.

Many of us think it is impossible to find time in our busy schedule to sit down and practise concentration. It is not that difficult. The key is to practise, even if for a short while, whenever we have time. When we do this repeatedly, the mind will become habituated to being focused, and concentration will gradually become easier.

Concentration power developed in this way keeps us tranquil even in a difficult situation. Furthermore, it prevents wastage of mental energy in unnecessary thinking. A focused mind is, therefore, a powerful mind that can do more in less time. Such a mind is the key to quick progress on the path of self-improvement.

B.K. Usha is a Rajyoga teacher at the Brahma Kumaris headquarters in Abu Road, Rajasthan.

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Dadi Janki



Success means reaching such a constant level of positive thoughts that pure actions happen naturally. Pure actions are like good seeds which, when planted, produce healthy, sweet fruit. “As you sow, so shall you reap”.

Concern for the quality of my actions today ensures the success of my tomorrow. Virtues are the mainstay in this because success like this requires hope, and hope, in today’s world, requires courage. It is a matter of working from the strength of your convictions which is a spiritual kind of honesty. Balance these qualities and your path will be easy. You will move forward. Your success will be assured.

Courage alone does not bring success. If there is only courage, there will be ego. It is courage plus honesty which brings God’s help and that is what guarantees success. “God is getting it done through me”, “I am simply an instrument in this task”, these are honest thoughts that elicit God’s help and protection.

Humility is the result of such honesty and courage. A life of enthusiasm, courage, honesty and humility is inspirational. It is a way of helping others become successful, too.

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