Truth is a great quality, but by itself it does not always bring complete success. If presented harshly, truth can offend and alienate people; it is when truth is accompanied by calmness that it finds easy acceptance and makes the greatest impact.
We may be true and know the truth, but we can serve others best when the confidence that comes with truth is balanced with calmness. One who has both these qualities can help cool down tempers. Instead of offering the truth gently, if we hurl it at others, it can spark a confrontation. Wielding truth in the wrong manner can hurt people and stop them from accepting it. Instead if we understand where the other person stands, and approach them accordingly, presenting truth in such a way that they recognise its value and accept it, we are able to truly serve them.
This calls for empathy and maturity, which develop when we cultivate a spiritual awareness and relate to others as souls, our siblings in the human family. Just as a mother is able to bring into line a mischievous child with her love, a calm and friendly manner prepares the ground for the other person, even if he is sceptical or cold, to acknowledge and accept the truth.
It is love and peace that make souls worthy or able to accept truth. The thoughts, words, and behaviour of a calm person have a cooling effect on others, disarming critics and alleviating the pain of those in distress.
In the absence of serenity, thoughts — a lot of them waste — arise fast in the mind, and we end up spending much time trying to control them. Those who have calmed their mind are not only saved from these troubles, they also are a source of solace for others. A tranquil person is like the tree whose shade provides cool comfort to travellers. People are drawn to such souls and find rest and ease in their company. At a time when conditions in the world are difficult for a lot of people, they are looking for such support in order to get relief from their fears and worries. This opens our eyes to the value of developing our spiritual resources and sharing them, for our own good and the benefit of others.
B.K. Dr Savita is a Rajyoga teacher at the Brahma Kumaris headquarters in Abu Road, Rajasthan.