Marriage in India is considered the most sacred institution. It unites two loving souls for a purposeful life. In fact marriage creates the platform for family tree for successive generations.
It has sanctity, trust and mutual affection. Unfortunately in India, two major developments badly affected the marriage. They are delayed marriages and increasing number of divorces among the couple.
If one looks at the delayed marriages or no marriages, it is observed that for marriage to settle down, there are many pre-conditions. In 21 century, marriages are considerably different from the previous centuries.
With the focus on education and job market, the young and the educated youth prioritize themselves. In the past the parents used to settle down the marriage alliances. Contrary to this, the choice and selection of young girls of marriageable age holds the key for final settlements. They become independent according to their decision.
Right from the settlement to solemnization of marriage, the young brides and grooms decide the exercise altogether. As a result, only a section of the privileged get married and others are struggling to get married.
The boys remain unmarried even at 50 years of age. The job market, the mad race for money, opportunities outside the country and other status issues are involved in the marriage. A delayed marriage is what India has been facing as a whole with the exception of a few deserving lot. While a few of them are blessed, the others are cursed because of many social factors.
India, no doubt, ranks in the list of many bachelors who are waiting to be married. The number of married people is comparatively lower than those of unmarried people.
While this being the case, a shocking revelation came to light that the married couple don’t make a happy married life in the end. The statistics in Indian family Courts are an evidence of lacs of divorce cases pending for disposal.
Why is this trend of divorces taking place in India which speaks of values in society? It is a sort of dissatisfaction that separates the couple that too in a short after marriage is solemnized. It could be a clash between people of ancient and modern thinking.
On the other side, there is a strong tendency that married couple try to control each other. Shockingly, there are couples who seek divorce just months of marriage.
Even family Counseling Centers cannot convince the couple who filed divorce petitions. The Courts take time to grant the decree of divorce keeping in view of the future of children. A divorce may separate the couple but a decision to separate the kids from the parents is really heart-touching.
They are innocent kids or children become the victims of such divorces. Telangana stands at seventh position in the divorce percentage. Their upbringing, education and etc in society is always challenging.
They are identified as having kids with separated parents. The divorce rate is growing up at an alarming pace if one finds the number of divorce cases in Family Courts. Each divorce case has a story to tell in terms of arguments and counter arguments.
But in reality, the children lose their parental love, affection and care though there are legal protections. They lead a life of alienated identity without the company of parents.
All that mutual trust and understanding is losing from the young Indian minds. The modern lifestyles, job opportunities, independent thinking, and financial status determine the crisis the divorce rate in India. There is no compatibility among the couple. Adjustment and compromise can put Indian Marriage back on right track.
P.V. Laxmiprasad is the author and editor of 44 books in English Literature
